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Frank- It does seem strange that I feel she’s semi-remorseful even with her suicide attempt. I feel that way because she says she wants to stay with me and reconcile but she makes no effort to examine why she had the affair or answer any other lingering questions. Then it occurs to me that the attempt could have been less about regret and more of an effort to avoid responsibility and the social scorn that she may have to deal with, if this becomes common knowledge.

It seems you’re right about affair-sex, based on everything I’m reading. Unfortunately, its also true that once you get burned by it, the idea of ruining someone else’s relationship with some hot, steamy affair-sex isn’t very appealing.

And yes, weekly for 4 1/2 to 5 years according to her latest guess. Sometimes 2x a week but not always for sex. Sometimes just a legitimate workout and some chit chat. There is no way she didn’t have some feelings for this dirt bag. Not admitting it makes me worried that she could still feel that way and who knows when it could crop up again.

Anyway, our next marriage therapy session I’m going to press for some answers. She seems to feel more obligated to discuss it in that setting.
Thanks for listening.

LTH. It is truly cruel, that behavior and her cutting words. Sex with a married man in his garage while his own wife and children are on the same property is her best sex? While the man who loves her and her own children are waiting for her at her home! Then a suicide attempt. It doesn't even all add up. If there is any way you can monitor her phone calls and activities - maybe you should try that. My world became a lot clearer after I started listening into my WX's telephone conversations.

Step aside and let her go live her best life in this guy's garage with his wife and kids nearby and call it done. As painful as it is for you and your kids - it is what it is.

Don't ever accept her lousy opinion of you. Don't ever.